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Wellbeing Wednesday – 28 July 2021

Jane FowlerHappy Wednesday everyone! This week is all about how important friendships are for our wellbeing and highlights the opportunity to celebrate our friendships on International Friendship Day this Friday.

 

Our friends are so important to our lives, they bring support, a listening ear, fun times, shared interests and overall a richness to our lives that we would be poorer without. I found some lovely quotes about friendship

True friendship is like good health, the value of it is seldom know until it is lost

Friendship is not one big thing, it is a million little things

One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood

True friendship comes when the silence between two people is comfortable.

Keep away from those who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you believe that you too can become great.

So let’s celebrate our friendships this week and make someone’s day.

And if any of your friends are readers, why not recommend them the book that Kay Owen has reviewed for us below J

International Friendship Day 30 July 2021

Happy friendship dayIf we have learnt anything at all, from the past 18 months of lockdown, it must be how important friendship is to our wellbeing and happiness. One of the hardest things we have had to deal with is not being able to see our friends and family in person, or share our day to day experiences in the quite same way. 

Well this month sees the celebration of International Friendship Day, which provides us with an opportunity to reflect on our friendships, both near and far, and the positivity they bring to our lives.

Background and History of International Friendship Day

International friendship dayFriendship Day was first proposed in 1958 in the USA but it was not until 2011 that the UN General Assembly declared 30 July as an official ‘International Friendship Day’. The UN proposed that friendship can inspire peace efforts between peoples, countries, cultures and individuals and can link communities.


International Day of Friendship is based on the importance of friendship as a noble and valuable sentiment in the lives of human beings across the world.  The UN emphasis is also on involving young people, as future leaders, in community activities that include different cultures and promote international understanding and respect for diversity.


International Friendship Day is also intended to support the Culture of Peace and Non-Violence for the Children of the World.

Why is the International Day of Friendship important? 

Friendship requires empathy, compassion and concern for other people. By valuing and celebrating friendship, we foster these characteristics and adopt a more selfless and grateful outlook on life. 

 

Across communities, International Day of Friendship can help build and strengthen relationships in spite of differences in cultures. The day can help build a more kind and peaceful world, with implications that are wide and far-reaching.  

How to celebrate the International Day of Friendship 

  • True friends are never apart, maybe in distance but never in heart.Ring up a friend and have a chat 
  • Reach out to someone who you’ve not spoken to in a while 
  • Arrange to meet up with a friend or group of friends and go for a walk or other group activity (in accordance with the latest Covid restrictions)
  • Take a moment to think about what unites people instead of what separates us.
  • Watch a favourite film or read a book about friendship.
  • Smile! Whoever you meet today, just smile and show a friendly face, you just might make someone’s day!

Did you know?

  • The average number of best friends an adult has is just 2.
  • Babies start to first recognise friendships at around 9 months old.
  • Young adults spend up a quarter of their time socialising with their friends.
  • We are more likely to change our behaviours by following the example of our friends, for example to stop smoking, although this can work both ways!
  • If you are friends with the people you work with, your productivity can increase and your stress levels can decrease significantly.
  • Older people live longer if they have a strong network of friends.
  • Humans are not the only the only species to have friends. Studies have shown that whales, dolphins, chimpanzees, horses, elephants, dogs and cats have both same-species and inter-species friendships.

So, take some time today to think about your friends and what they mean to you.  Read more about it at the International Friendship Day website.

The invisible life of Addie LaRue by V.E Schwab

Book review by Kay Owen

The invisible life of Addie LarueIn 1714 Addie La Rue living in a small village in France, makes a pact with a demon in order to escape a forced marriage. As a result Addie is both cursed to live forever but be forgotten by everyone who knew her or anyone she meets.

Some might say that this has its advantages and for Addie it does, but ultimately Addie is lonely.  She longs to be remembered and finds that the only way to leave any trace of herself in the world is through art, as a muse and being captured as others see her.

The only person who remembers Addie is the demon who cursed her and who follows her through the years, they have relationship of sorts but it is not a friendship. Then 300 years later in New York, Addie meets someone who does remember her and is finally able to share her life and story.

The ending of this book, is I think at best divisive but at its heart this a story about loneliness, friendship, how good and bad relationships can impact our lives and the importance of treasuring the time spent with a good friend.

 

As always, please continue to let us know your thoughts and ideas about the items featured in our Wellbeing Wednesdays each week and send us your suggestions for future topics – we love to hear from you.

 

The Wellbeing Team:  wellbeing@argyll-bute.gov.uk